Have you ever been in a situation where people expected you to do something but you didn't want to do it; and what's worse, you couldn't bring yourself to tell the other person or people that you didn't want to do it?
Either remember such a situation or make one up but either way be descriptive. What is it they expected you to do? What happened when you couldn't bring yourself to tell them you didn't want to do it? What advice would you give to other people who find themselves in a situation like this? (Using dialogue in stories often makes them more vivid.)
Answers that are overly short will not receive full credit. (How long is 'overly short'? I'm not sure but I know it when I see it.)
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Yea i had a situation like that i was at my cousins house and there was heka people over there because they were having a cook out and they wanted me to help them decarate but i didnt want to help at all i just wanted some food cause i was hungey and so they just picked someone else to help then i left because no one was tryna talk to me just because of that problem.
ReplyDeleteYeah like one time i got in a fght and the kid hit me in the back of the head but instead i didn't hit him back but my friends thought i was scared but i wasn't
ReplyDeleteyes i have my cusinwanted me to go wit h her to see her boyfriend because i go every where with and this time i dident so she got mad and i was like o well
ReplyDeleteYes,I have been in a situation where people expected me to do something I didn't want to do. It also did not help that I couldn't find it in my heart to tell them what I really planned on doing. The situation that I'm talking about right now is private so I can't tell you exactly what happened but I can still give you some advice. The advice that I would give to other peoplet that feel pressured by other people into doing something their heart really isn't in to do, would be to be straight up throughout the whole thing. That's what I did- I was straight up. It wasn't easy for me so I had asked someone to help me do it and it worked out great.
ReplyDeleteyes i hav a time wen me and my cuzn was not pose to go outside but my cuzn made me i didnt want to cuz i knew we would get in trouble we were tryna go to a party but after we went we didnt get caught but after a while i told my mama wat i did cuz i felt bad
ReplyDeletei was in a situation that i couldnt get out of but i dont want to talk about it. if i have to give an advice to my friend in the same situation i would of tell him or her to just get it over with. if you cant do what you are supposed to do then thats their problem. thats my advice to them.
ReplyDeleteOne day after school i was walking home, some kids came up and asked me to smoke. He asked me to smoke a cigar he took from his dad. I refused to smoke, and he said it was cool to smoke that only the cool kids do it. I said "na man im cool i dont want mess myslef up because im not one of those cool kids im me". I would tell someone to do the same thing i did and refuse instead of just doing the wrong thing.
ReplyDeleteMy mom expect me to bring up my grades to atleast a c+ but its kinda hard for me because i always slakd off in every class but now iam triying my hardest to make my mommy happy and my hole family proud of me and now iam triying to go to colage and get a very good corier for myself and not be depending on somebody els like my parents
ReplyDeleteyea there has been a situation where someone wanted me to do something and they really expected me to do it that moment like my mom always tells me to wash the dishes but i dont do them i usually forget and also when i finish eating i forget to wash my dishes.
ReplyDeleteand when my mom saw when i didnt do them i tell her i forget.
something that people like my mom and my aunt expect me to bring upmy grades and there up now i have two As two Bs a C and an F those grades went up from last time and it feel likes there not satisfied with the work that i do. and it makes me not want to do it to like give up on it. but since i know some people that did that and i see what there doing for a living and i know that i dont want to end up like that. soo im going to proove to them that im going to get somewhere in life. this kind of connects to the warm up because last semester they told me to bring them up but i failed two classes. and there telling meh to bring them up and thats what im doing...
ReplyDeletethe time when people expects me to do something but i didnt is the thing when my friend alisson told me to do something on her myspace but i didnt do it, and she really expect me to do it for her. but i forgot wel l i didnt forgot but i just havent been on the computer. there also a time when my dad expect me to do some stuff in the house but i never have a time to do it cuase i was too lazy.
ReplyDeleteiv never been in in that situation but my exgf
ReplyDeleteher parent were kicking her out her house and sending her to the islands and she didnt want to leave cali. so her parent droped her of at the airport and they left her ther crying and so she never got on the plain she didnt want to leave her life her to start a new on e in da islands.
about 3 months ago i went to the park on my bike with my friends and i told my sister to let me borrow her new phone so i can call my mom just in case. While i was riding my bike the phone slipped out my pocket and fell. I had to tell my sister that i lost her phone and i didnt want to tell her.
ReplyDeleteYes. This is my story, There has been many times when people have put expectations on me. First though let me tell you story's simalar to my story. There is this boxer, came out of cuba an is fighting in u.s.a. Now normally this sounds good to boxers coming out of countries. But this one was different, because he was so talented in this sport they want'd to just fight him every week, if they could. Normal great boxer's fight amost every 3 to 5 months. But they fought him every month. To his brain its good, but to body its bad. He has so many expectation's that he is trying to change these fights. Now my story is the stress that people i know expect me to do things i dont want to do. It starts off as me liking it, and ends up with me hating it. The thing that i hate with these expectations is that if you mess up or dont do what people expect from you than they get mad. I hope this makes sense!
ReplyDeletei have not been in this situation before
ReplyDeletemy friends parents tried to make her move to hawii and so they left her at the airport and they just left her ther and so she sat ther and waited and thought about stuff bfore she mad her move and so she didnt go because she didnt want to leave cali.
one time my cousins was telling me to jam on the uke. I had told them the day before that i was gonna do it. But wen it came down to it i didnt feel like doin it. They expected me to play nd jam, but i dint feel like it so, I told them i had to do someing at my grandmas house so i left until i felt that they might have forgot. then i went back
ReplyDeletei had an experience like that with my dad when he told me to do the dishes. i didn't want to do it since i have homework but i didn't want to tell him either. when he went out to shop for groceries, i completely forgot about the dishes and when he came home.......he was angry. my opinion is that you should only agree to do it if you know and want to do the thing. also if you don't have a answer right away, tell them you will think about it.
ReplyDeleteOne memorable situation were people expected me to do somthing but i didnt want to do it, and i didnt want to tell them i didnt want to do it was this weekend. I was at my house sunday(yesterday)and my mom said," Were going to plant trees today."
ReplyDeleteI of course didnt want to because i was going to hang out with my girlfriend. But of course it was futile, i wouldnt be able to do anything about it so i just had to suck it up and go plant trees at some random church with my mother.
Over the weekend, I went with some friends to Boomers. When we were there, we went mini-golfing. As we were golfing, one of my friends said to me,"Hey throw that golf ball towards the freeway" (expecting me to hit a car).
ReplyDeleteBoomers is right near a freeway and there are always many cars passing by driving. Of course I didn't want to do it, so I simply told him that and we continued to golf. The advice I give to others who are pressured into making a tough decision, by puting them or others in danger should not do it and should tell the person no.
Once, I was told to write this report for my class. I really didn't want to write the report because I'd rather do something else. I couldn't bring myself to tell the teacher because he already knew that some people didn't want to do it. I just did the report like everyone else should have during class. My advice to everyone is to just get it done without too much effort.
ReplyDeleteThis is made up-My friends asked me to jump of a bidge and I did.Water was there so I lived. I would tell other people for advice to just stand up for themself and don't get bossed around.
ReplyDeleteThere was this one time my Auntie wanted me to go with her to this party.
ReplyDelete"The party is for my friend Maria she's from my work" my aunt said.
"Umm I have to ask my mom" I said.
In my head I was like I won't know anyone and I cant cling to my aunt the whole time. The party was mainly a birthday. I asked my mother.
" If you want to go then go if you don't don't go." she said.
"But I don't want to hurt her feelings" I said.
So I decided to tell and be front.
" Umm.... Auntie Caroline I dont really want to go" I said.
"No problem it's okay" she said.
I felt relieved and good when I told her. Just a little advice if you don't want to do something be front, don't shy out.
A situation when my mom expected to to do something and I did not want to do it was when she wants me to babysit my little brother and sister so she can go out and do whatever and I would just get really mad and be like no but I would always eventually have to stay with them.
ReplyDeleteI was expected to one time steal a pack of gun with my friends. They where all presurring me to do it. It was a sunday afternoon and we where at the store. We where all grouped up in the candy section and they where offering to take it. When i really didn't want to do it they started making fun of me and laughing. To others in this situation, stay strong to your word and say no. Stand a firm ground and not anything you don't want to.
ReplyDeletei cant remember much but i think it happened to me once. i think that this happened back in my old high school, when i have to pair up with one of the student in the class and this girl came up to me. she asked me if i wanted to be her partner, since im still free so i thought why not so i accepted to be her partner for that project, this happened in september b4 i go to SLH. so we started working on the project and she asked me to go online and download a bunch of information about this issue that would help our project alot but then my family just moved and we cant get any internet connection for atlease one and a half week, the school library wasnt open until october so i was kinda stuck. i couldnt tell her because i think that was my only job in that project and it'll be kinda odd if i tell her to do that for me too.
ReplyDeleteOne time I was at a party at my friends house, and in her backyard theres a pathway to a little creek thingy. Its part of someone elses house, so youre not allowed to go down there but everyone that we were with wanted to go. I thought it was a bad idea because people have been caught there before and they got in a lot of trouble, since its trespassing. Also, sometimes homeless people and crackheads sleep down there so that was just another reason why i didnt wanna go. So anyways everyone was getting ready to leave and i just went with them because i didnt want to stay alone at the house. On our way down we thought we were hearing noises down there, but we kept going anyways. Once we got all the way down there, we saw that there were already some people down there. They were probably homeless people but we didnt know so we just went back up.
ReplyDeleteThere was once a time where I had to eat at a friend's house where I did not want to go. I had just eaten, but ws with my friend and his family. They are very insulted if I do not eat. I have tried their food before and have not enjoyed it. I was full and didn't have the stomach to take any of their food. They were haveing some sort of foregn food that reeked of a dead sunk.
ReplyDeleteHis mom: "John Lew come eat, come eat." I was about to grab a plate, then all of a sudden my phone rang. It was my mom telling me to come home.
John: "Uh actually, I got to go." I was saved.
a time where someone had told me something was wen that person wanted me to go to the store and get them something but steal for them i didnt want to tell them no becuz nthen they ar goin to think wrong of me and so then i went i was scared and didnt noe wat to do i wanted to make my frens happy but at the same time i didnt want to make myself to get in big trouble either so i didnt noe wat tom do. that was my situation that i had once before wen someone told u to do somethin and you didnt noe wat to do.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't do something for a friend, but just couldn't tell them that because your afraid that they'll be mad at you about it later on...well my advice is, you should use your guts and go tell them you can't do whatever they want you to do, its better they know why rather not; it will just make a much bigger problem, trust me I know.
ReplyDeleteAnd the situation that I've been in, is when I've dyed my hair into blonde yes blonde so I can color it blue, and I didn't want my mom to find out so... I didn't tell her anything about it; I didn't even ask about dying it soooo, I went to the store and bought Hair-Bleach and Semi-Permanet Hair color, which was BLUE!!! Anyways I went home, and started bleaching my hair into blonde for about an hour and a half or so, then after that I washed my hair and everything, even dried it, so I dyed it to blue which turned into green...so when my mom got home, she was shock to see me with green hair. Well... after she told me not to put my the hood of my jacket over my head inside the house...that is. How she found out!!! Yup, I was BUSTED!
Yes there were many times when I have been in a situation where someone expected me to do something but I didn't want to do it. It is hard to tell someone news that they do not want to hear. There was a time in class when the class was taking a test and a student had came in late and just then I had finished my test. That student was assigned to the seat next to me. The student sat down and started writing, working out the problems and then the student turned to me and asked to help on a problem. I knew it was wrong to cheat like that but I couldn't say no, so I helped the student. After that first problem, the student started asking me for more help on the problems, I still couldn't say no. Near the end of the test there was an extremely hard problem which took me a long and fustrating time to figure out, and I knew that I could not help that student out on that problem. So I told her that if I were to help the student out on that problem, our test would look too alike, the student understood and said that it would stay blank. During the whole time helping the student cheat, I felt so guilty and scared. I kept on looking over my shoulders to look out for the teacher. I really hope that next time I would have more courage to so 'no' to something that should not be done or something that I don't want to do.
ReplyDeleteOne time i was with my cousins, and we were at the movies. There was this scary movie that they wanted me to watch, and it was very obvious that i didnt want to see it. All my cousins wanted to watch the movie and we all didnt have enough money. So they had to sneak in from the back. They told me to buy a movie ticket, and let them in from the back of the theatres and told me to not make it obvious and stay calm. But knowing how i am, I'm always usually the "good" girl in the group and "uptight", i knew i had to do it. I really wanted to say no and not do it, But they would call me names, and make up some story to tell my parents to get me in big trouble. So i had no choice but to do it.
ReplyDeleteThe advice i would give to others is to stand up for yourself when you don't want to do something you're not comfortable doing. I know i can do that, i guess i'm too scared of the consequences.
I was in this situation, when my mom expected me to watch my little sister while her and my dad went out one night,even though i had already made plans. I felt bad because my mom and dad never go out, and it would be nice if they had fun.
ReplyDeleteMom: " Your not doing anything tonight right?"
Me: "why?"
Mom: "Your dad and i wanted to go out tonight. think you could watch her?"
I sensed this was her way of telling me i had to "babysit".
Me: "Yea i can do that. Have fun."
Even though my reply sounded sincere enough, and a had plastered a heart warming smile on my face, on the inside i was disappointed. I wanted to hang out with my friends. I wanted to sit in a theater filled with whispers and laughs and comments on how the main character is stupid for running towards the bad guy. I wanted to be surrounded by the smell of buttery popcorn, and sweetly smelling candies.
But that wasn't the case. Instead i sat home watching reruns and eating left over chinese food.
If i were to give advice to someone, i would say that if you don't want to do something, voice your opinion.
i remeber when my mom wanted me to take care of my little cousin and i did want to then my mom got mad at me. then my family did and i wanted to tell them why and no one didnt wanted to hear what i was going to say, and then i felt like i was gone and as if i never existed
ReplyDeleteYes, I always have to experience with that with adult. One of my mom's very best friend, she is very nice to me, treating me as her daughter. She ask me go to temple with her every Sunday. At first I thought it might be very fun going to temple because it has food. So I told her I will go with her. The first time I went. I already got bored by it. The people sitting there praying. So quiet, no body talk, the worse of all was all elders. I think the people that in my age are being force by their parents. When it finish praying they eat only greens because all of them are vegetarians. The next time, she came pick me up, I really don’t want to go but I don’t know what to tell her. And this going on for like 3 weeks. I really don’t want to go, I told her the truth. I feel very very bad that time. But she is very nice and say that I just like her son. I still love her.
ReplyDeleteMy mom love to find every way she can to improve my math. There was a time when she even thought of putting me in a community college in the summer just to prepare myself for next years math. That time, she got really excited, getting me all the information of when the classes are and how to get there. I smiled and "I'll think about it" when she asked me if I wanted to go. I didn't have the heart to tell her that I didn't want to because her hopeful eyes showed that she'll be torn apart. Eventually, I said that I don't want to spend my summer doing even more work, considering that I'm already working really hard in school. My mom looked really disappointed and asked me numerous times if I was sure about my decision. It was really hard to say no, but if I don't say what I want, I'm going to be bossed around for the rest of my life.
ReplyDeleteone day, when i was hanging out with my friends and one of them ask me to help them to do something. he wanted me to help him go steal a pair of shoes for him. i didnt want to do it but i couldnt say no to him neither. but i think over and over and he decide not to help him. so i tell him that i dont want to get into trouble.
ReplyDeletewell, my aunt and uncle asked me if i wanted to go to summer school at CCS, but before i could say no, she quickly said that she would get me the forms to fill out, and the list of classes they offered. i didnt want to tell her no, so i said that i would think about it. after taking a look at the list of classes, (all boring by the way)i told her that i didnt want to do them. she looked really disappointed in me. but what was i supposed to do? say yes and spend the summer in boredom? id rather disappoint her than give up my summer of freedom.
ReplyDeleteYes, I’ve been in a similar situation like that before. When my grandma died, everyone in our family was shocked. When we went out we sometimes would have a sad face. People we knew passed by and asked, “What’s wrong?”, or “Why do you look so sad?” It was hardest on my dad because it was his mom, and he cried hard. What’s worst is that he called my sister in china to tell her that their mom passed away. On the same day, we had to go to San Francisco to visit my dad’s aunt (as we always do). My grandma was my great aunt’s little sister, so she was really upset when she found out that my grandma died before she did. It was hard for all of us to tell her because she’s old and sudden changes upset her.
ReplyDeleteIf other people are in a similar situation, I think they should just say the truth earlier; it’s better than lying and telling the truth later.
this one time someone told me if i wanted to go punch a kid, and i told them no because he is really weak and he will cry and snitch on us and we would get in really big trouble and we would have to apoligize to him. so i stud p and didnt do it.
ReplyDeletethere was this one time when i was at the movies with my cousin and this girl who i had previously had continous arguments with was there. she had her lil brother with her and im glad becuase i really wanted to fight her, so i look at it aas everything happens for a reason and it wasn't ment
ReplyDeleteyea there was this one time my sister wanted me to go to her basketball game but i didnt want to go but my mom was like i should so support so i went
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